Ambondrona
When Ambondrona band started out, one of my cousin said she did not like their songs because they only copy on Scorpion but as we all liked the band, she changed her mind and finally loved them.
At my office, one of my colleague invited us to a karaoke party and everybody was in. Finally, on the D Day, only a few people came. Still at the party, a guy from our team who usually drinks beer could not refuse an invitation to have whisky.
I was used to be dressed like men (with large pants and T-shirt) and all my relatives and friends wanted me to be a real girl by having long hair and wearing clothes for girls. I did not like the idea but as they all insisted, I finally gave up and follow their advice.
My best friend never wanted to drink beer but as we all did so, he started with fresh and now he can have THB.
There is a girl at work who changes her age all the time. It depends on the age of people surrounding her. If we are 25, she is 25. Or if we are 30, she is 30. Well, I’m wondering if she would be10 if we were 10 too.
The idea of those examples is: we are not what we are. We are what the others want us to be. We cannot say NO when we disagree; instead we lie or we give up and accept. We easily accept because we do not want to be different. Have you ever agreed with what your friend said though you did not totally share their opinion? Here is a typical example: look, those green pair of shoes are great, what do you think about them? Here is the usual answer: Oh yes, they are great! (even if you prefer the orange ones lol)
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October 15, 2008 at 6:37 am
sixthman
Peer pressure or beer pressure lol :p
Sometimes, I say sometimes ahhh, you have to fit with your group (friends, co-workers …) and to follow the vibe. Influence will always be there as long as your in a community and it’s up to you to see what’s good and bad for yourself. If you happen to be with good people, they’ll give you choices instead of forcing you do something they know you don’t like.
October 15, 2008 at 10:34 am
moonlightgirl
I love Ambondrona! I think it’s the Best malagasy rock group. The first time I heard their music, I loved it right away. I’m a big fan, I have all their albums.
I want this group to continue singing forever. Even when I’m 80 yrs old, I will still be their loyal fan til the end.
” You’re the BEST GUYS!”
October 21, 2008 at 2:31 pm
simp
alicia letia e 😛
I think, you and I have smth in common 😉
October 21, 2008 at 2:39 pm
simp
Thing is, u just need to have a set of principle which you can’t cross.
Meaning, if the guy changes his mind so often, it’s not part of his principle. Like, beer or whisky it’s all the same. Maybe not, one would get you drunk faster but as long as you drink a little, either way it’s fine… bottom line is to be nice and friendly even if you don’t give a sh.t 🙂
Try to ask him if you can sleep with his wife? if you get a “F.ck off”, u crossed the line… meaning that was on his principle 🙂
October 21, 2008 at 5:29 pm
andrydago
Dear Ariniaina (;-))
I believe that the various examples you gave in your very interesting post all deal with the so called peer pressure. This is just normal as it is: we always follow the others because we all want to be accepted as part of a community which may or may not share your values. There is no 1,000 ways to fight against it, what you need to do is just to make efforts to show to people the positiveness of our personnality and our behavour. As far as I know you, I’m ready to bet my boots that ALL of your friends are greatful to have you as their friend.
Never forget that